CANDLE-LIT DINNER. Dinner with your significant other of 4 years. Tonight’s the night. You brought the ring.
YOU: So I’ve been thinking about this for a while, and I think it’s time we take the next step in our relationship…
Her: in awe
YOU: gets down on one knee Will you marry me?
HER: Yes! Of course!
YOU (relieved): Takes her hand and slowly puts ring on finger
HER: I’m so excited!
YOU: Me too!
You gaze into each others eyes as time freezes.
HER: Oh by the way I’m thinking about breaking up with you.
YOU: surprised um what?
HER: Serious. One more shot before I break up with you and go date other people.
YOU: Where is this coming from?
HER: grimaces So, five months ago you did something I didn’t like. And since we only talk about our feelings twice a year, this is when you find out and we adjust
YOU: …?
HER: I just can’t be like other humans and tell you about things when they happen, I’d rather wait to group all my feedback to twice a year. It’s more efficient to batch it that way.
YOU: wait so even though we’re getting married, you’re upset at me because of something from five months ago?
HER: Yup! Really excited we’re getting married though.
HER: Directionally our relationship has never been better. It just wasn’t great five months ago.
YOU: I’m so confused.
HER: That’s ok, why don’t you take a few hours to think about my feedback and we can sync up later.
YOU: …?
HER: Awkward fake smile
YOU: …?
HER: Oh by the way, let’s get you a pillow on the way home. Your ass is sleeping on the couch till we have this conversation again in September 2020.
FROM: Date Night with Your Performance Review